Tuesday, July 8, 2008

Self-Esteem??

I'm curious as to what your motives are for losing weight. Your real motives... not the ones you know are right, or which ones sound good. I had to ask myself this same question. I DO want to Glorify God in all that I do, but that isn't my only motivation for losing weight. I know that my health can be affected by poor eating and exercising habits, but honestly, health isn't even at the top of my list; it's there, but somewhere closer to the bottom. I want to look better... for my husband and for myself. I'm not trying to make myself attractive for anyone else, but not being repulsive would be nice ;) When I reached my goal weight a couple of years ago I noticed some of my true motives rearing their ugly head. Now that I could fit into a size FOUR (I love how that sounds) I felt a desire to wear all sorts of clothing that I hadn't been able to wear before. I bought a couple of tops and skirts that, after wearing once, I just had to get rid of. They weren't modest enough to give the attention to the LORD where it belongs. But why would I chose that in the first place?... A hidden desire to tell the world, "Look at me! I'm skinny!" Upon close examination of my feelings I can see where they stem from. You've heard it many times before, and I'm sure that most of you have used it yourself.... Self-Esteem. The term is thrown around so carelessly and it's even seen as something we should all strive to have. An overweight person will talk about having a 'low self-esteem'; teachers in public schools are told to treat their students in a way that will promote a 'high self-esteem'. But is this really what we should be trying to obtain as Christians?

The definition of Self-Esteem is: Pride in oneself; respect for or a favorable opinion of oneself; self-respect.

That doesn’t sound like what I want; how about you? PRIDE in oneself? God tells us in Proverbs 8:13, “The fear of the LORD is to hate evil: pride, arrogancy, and the evil way, and the forward mouth, do I hate.” (emphasis mine). God HATES pride, and did you notice that arrogance, which is almost the same thing, is listed next? He listed it TWICE in the same verse. He’s really trying to get his point across here! Romans 3:10, as well as many other verses, tells us, “As it is written, There is none righteous, no, not one:” How can we have a favorable opinion of ourselves when God himself is telling us we aren’t worthy of it? When I was looking for a good verse about self-respect I found this one… it is SO appropriate here, Proverbs 28:21, “To have respect of persons is not good: for for a piece of bread that man will transgress.” Those of you watching your carbs will understand that one more! I’ve had my own moments where any self-respect I imagined myself to have would have gone out the window for a piece of bread!

I feel as though I'm 'preaching to the choir' here, because I'm sure you all know that pride is bad and that none of us are truly good. But sin can be a sneaky thing and Satan will take it whether it's intentional or not. Examine what your true goals are for losing weight. Are you worried about your level of 'self-esteem'? Accept the fact that NONE of us are good and keep your eyes on the Lord. Let's all make sure that we are doing everything to Glorify GOD!

10 comments:

Lisa Kmiec said...

Wow... what a great post! I agree 100% with what you said.
The world does tell us that we need to have self-esteem. But you are so right. It is God we need to esteem, not ourselves. HE is the only one worthy of it.
Thank you for the reminder.

Crissy said...

Sometimes the choir needs the sermon more than the congregation! ;) I definitley need to think and pray on these things. Thanks for you honesty and openness.

Tori Leslie said...

Wow, this was a wonderful and very needed post. It's so true, the world instructs us to do and be the exact opposite of what God wants for us. In Putting our confidence in Him we gain self confidence because of him.
Great post Pam!!

Jenny P. said...

Pam this is so wonderful and touched home more then you will ever know. I too have always been told about my low self esteem and I am not confident enough. But reading your post and really thinking they are two different things. I dont think there is anything wrong with a low self esteem if it means having pride and arogance in myself. I dont want that I want to give God all the glory and not me. Confidence
is just believing and having faith in yourself. I believe in myself to give God all the glory and leave Him in control and putting all my faith and trust in Him to get me through a workout, eating right and molding my body into what HE wants. So if someone says I have a low self esteem I will say thank you know God is in control.
I hope this makes sense because it was so hard to explain what I have been thinking about this.

Laura said...

I don't think confidence is a problem for me. Why do I want to lose weight? Well for years that answer has been VERY fuzzy. I thought for a long time it would be the "answer to everything". I am so glad God has brought me through a valley to realize that it is not the answer and most definitely not the answer to everything!! I am losing weight now (or will be soon) for my health which has taken a dramatic turn for the worse, comfort for me because it is uncomfortable to overweight and lastly but just as important to have myself be more attractive to my husband which after a lot of study that is very important in Gods eyes

Love
Laura

Praise and Coffee said...

Great post, thank you!
Sue

Anonymous said...

Very good post friend! So what is my motive for losing weight? Humm,, I'll have to think on that one.

Sis. Julie said...

Awesome post and one that certainly makes one think and ponder on motive for losing weight. As for me I do desire to glorify God in my body!! But there are added perks as well.

1. More energy
2. Feel better health-wise
3. Clothes fit better
4. Look better for my husband :)
5. Eat less (better on the food budget :)
6. Sleep better
7. Many, many more I'm sure!!

TO BECOME said...

In my youth to be honest my desire to lose weight came from wanting to look better. Now that I am older and realize what extra weight can do to a body, it is my desire to take care of the temple that God has given to me and to be as healthy as I can after years of neclect. Very good post, Pam. connie from Texas

TO BECOME said...

Dear Pam, I have found some answers that I have needed and I am very thankful. Please keep me in your prayers. connie from texas